Sweetpea and I have been a tiny family of two since she was three years old. I've thought about remarrying and been serious about it a couple of times, but life just kept and keeps getting in the way. But lately the marathon of motherhood seems more like a sprint with hurdles way too close together.
I've worked since Sweetpea was three and done a pretty decent job of supporting the two of us. Unfortunately the nasty bites of the economic times have nipped at our heels of late. A major step down in my career - my choice - partnered with my daughter's dad's decision to stop supporting her at age 18 have made things tight...especially with all the cost of college.
Training Tips on Single Mom Survival
- Keep your focus on the end prize...raising a happy, well-adjusted kid.
- Keep your faith and teach your family to have faith - you will need this in the good times and the bad.
- Teach your children to know that there is something better for them out there.
- Love your children unconditionally.
- Take care of yourself so you will be there for your family.
- Stress the importance of family however it might be packaged.
- Let go of anger and regrets in your life - neither help you move on and grow.
- Don't beat yourself up for your mistakes - do learn from them.
- Live everyday - sounds easy but as you get older you will realize that it is a consious decision and not an involuntary action.
- Don't wait for a better life...this is the better life.
- Extend your family with a circle of good friends.
- Ask for help when you need it.
Much love,
Miss Fanny

28 comments:
I know what you mean. I have been there in the same boat. My finace backed out and left me before our daughter was born. After I had her, it was just us two until she was 4. Then I met my now husband and we have been living a wonderful life since.
Hang in there. Dont let life catch up to much that it consumes everything. Dont be afraid to open new doors or close old doors. Be willing to stop for a time or two just to breathe and take in the moment.
If you desire to be marry again, the right one is out there and he will come in Gods timing. Be patient and enjoy everyday as they come. God Bless you friend!
That was an excellent post. I had a few years as a single mom of two, and I know the struggle of which you speak. Hang in there. You've made it this far, she's in college. You deserve to pat yourself on the back!
GREAT post!
I'm with you on that marathon!
Just been me and the boy since he was born essentially. (dad and I were together for a very short time after he was born)
anyway - we are in year 14 and MAN these teen years just keep getting harder......
but your post is right...
gotta stay positive...
about everything!
GOOD for you...keep smilin!
I have an award for you.
All your 'rules' are so perfect.
New follower this FF!
Following from the Friday Follow! Hope to see you at http://luvsjurn3.blogspot.com/2010/02/friday-follow_19.html soon!
I've been a single mom for about 16 of my son's 19 years, and I wouldn't trade it for the world.
Happy Follow Friday! I'm a new follower, you can find me blogging here: http://www.couponclippinmommy.com/
I was a single mom for 5 years with three little ones. I remarried 14 years ago and now the kids are all grown. But I have to admit, those five years were the best ever. Personally, the hard times brought us all closer. Loved your rules. Lived by them, too.
Good luck.
I was a single mom from the time Daughter was 2...it was difficult but now I'm so proud of her and myself. Your post is inspiring.
Mary
Those are wonderful suggestions! Love them! So pertinent and relevent! New Friday Follower!
Stopping by from Follow Friday. I'm not a single mom, but my hubby works 7 days a week...so it can feel like it most of the time. Thanks for those tips
Hi There! I'm participating in my first Friday Follow. I have a brand new blog-I hope you can visit! Thanks! I follow!
Bridgette Groschen
The Groschen Goblins
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Hello! I found your blog through Friday Follow- and I'm so glad I did! Hope lot's of new people find you as well!
I'm your newest follower- I'd love if you'd come check out my blog!
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I'm following you from Friday Follow!
Heather
http://www.ratherbechangingdiapers.com/
I have been a single mom for three years.My kids are 12,10 and 8..and this post really spoke to me! thank you!
Nice post and great tips.
This is a beautiful post, about what life really is and how to approach it.
Well done, blessings and happiness to you.
Dorothy from grammology
grammology.com
Fanny, I've been a single parent (only of two small boys at the time) and know the struggle.
I didn't finish the marathon as I remarried after a few years (made it a 5K I guess).
Congratulations on raising a wonderful daughter and making it through without bitterness.
What fantastic tips. I am so blessed to have my J in my life, thank goodness. :)
Have a great weekend!
Great rules to live by!
Great suggestions and be sure your daughter checks out financial aid!!
Standing O for you lady. I was raised by a single Mom and know what a tight rope you have to walk!
Awesome post. I have so much admiration and big-ups for you as a single mom. I am glad to have found your blog, but am sorry to hear you are a member of "the club." The marathon of life has lots of hurdles, doesn't it? But it sounds like you are kicking booty on those hurdles. Keep on truckin'!
Great post! I loved it.
Hi there! Thanks for joining the Blog Hop. I'm following you now. Love your blog. I'll be back later to read more.
Happy Follow Friday!
Tami
www.heartsmakefamilies.com
Be willing to stop for a time or two just to breathe and take in the moment.
Work From Home
Great post, but I think your list should be practiced by ALL mothers :-)
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